Published on Nov 16, 2020

I envy people who know how to have uncomfortable discussions. I am not good at it. I am much better than I used to be but I am still miles from where I would like to be.

I believe it is a skill. For anyone to be able to engage in having the uncomfortable talks and get them out of the way - have better communications overall. Period.

Talking about fun things or things where there is excitement and enthusiasm is relatively easy. But the hard conversations where critical things are discussed and major decisions are made are stressful and often difficult to execute properly. It is often difficult to convince people that it is essential to have these conversations. I know people who have urged me to go with the flow for big projects so we can use the energy people have to get things done quickly.

The older I get, the more I realize how important it is to have difficult conversations and to have them early. I believe it is even important to have conversations like - how do we make tough decisions. There is usually a dominating character who will manipulate the quiet ones into taking on an authoritarian role in decisions. I think it is best to have a good working system for situations where the decision can be made and the systems have authority over individuals.

Communication - especially uncomfortable communication is a skill. How and where can I build a streak to get better at it?