Self Improvementby@colemanfoley

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Oct 21, 2020

Scheduling Flow

There is a connection between scheduling free time and attaining a flow state. Thinking a bit about what you want to do ahead of time gives you a better shot at doing things you actually enjoy, instead of whatever is easiest. If you have a large free block of time and have nothing in particular plan...

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Oct 18, 2020

Environment and Flow

I’m looking out on a Southern California beach. I see the great blue ocean, dotted with sailboats. I see clusters of surfers. I see people relaxing and enjoying themselves on the beach. I see people, young and old, walking and jogging along the beach. I see so much possibility. Possibilities of expl...

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Oct 4, 2020

Three Walks a Day

Taking a few walks a day is very beneficial. It’s especially helpful right now, during the COVID-19 pandemic. Taking a few walks a day, say three fifteen-minute walks, obviously gives you some low-impact exercise. It’s a very accessible kind of exercise. It’s a good way to get started with exercise....

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Sep 6, 2020

Daily and Weekly Agendas

I have tried several different things to set and follow weekly and daily agendas. Some have ended up being too detailed, too much work, and ultimately unsustainable. Others have been so minimal that it's hard to see what I accomplished on each day and in each week. I've found that a good balance is ...

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Aug 30, 2020

Creating a Vivid Vision for Your Future

The clarity of your vision of your future is so important. It should be a vivid vision. It should feel real. You should be able to feel it. The clearer your vision, the more motivated you are to keep working toward it. The more vivid the vision, the more it will pull you towards it. How can one visu...

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Aug 25, 2020

Noom and MyFitnessPal

There are a lot of different apps to help people with losing weight or just getting into better shape. These apps cover a range of prices and levels of guidance. Noom is on the more expensive, more guided end of that scale, while MyFitnessPal is on the cheaper, less guided end. Noom really guides yo...

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Aug 22, 2020

Continuous Personal Growth

With every new month, a person should be starting a 30-day program or challenge. Or be in the middle of perhaps a 90-day course. One should be on some structured, time-limited growth journey. It could be something self-created, or one of the many resources online. It could be a course on Coursera or...

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Aug 16, 2020

Your Ideal Day

What would your ideal day look like? Hour by hour, what would you do? From when you woke up to when you went to sleep at the end of the day. What would be the elements of your ideal day? How much time would you spend with friends and family, how much time would you spend alone? How much would you ex...

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Aug 15, 2020

Pursuing 10-Year Goals in 6 Months

What would you like your life to be like in 10 years? Think about it a bit. What you would do for a living, what kind of house you would live in, who the people in your life would be. Now, ask yourself what you would do if you had to accomplish that in six months. This might seem kind of crazy, but ...

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Aug 11, 2020

Eliminating Contradictions

What are three things you habitually do that contradict who you want to be? Now, eliminate them. Benjamin Hardy recommends doing this exercise in order to be truer to your desired future self. It’s an interesting and effective way of identifying ways to improve yourself. You could try to come up wit...

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Aug 9, 2020

Persistence to Progress

If you keep striving towards a goal, things start to fall into place. If you approach every day with a clear purpose, opportunities will appear where you didn’t expect them. A focus for me right now is strengthening my relationships. I’ve never been great at building and maintaining relationships of...

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Jul 31, 2020

Weekly Experiments

Every week, you should choose one to three experiments to try in order to accelerate towards your goals. Maybe you have an overall goal of getting into better shape. So this week you could try taking a walk early every morning. Another week you could try doing strength training every morning. A week...

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Jul 28, 2020

Transforming One's Trauma

We all carry around unprocessed trauma, though we might not think of it that way. Trauma could even be something like being told you’re not good at math and feeling hurt by it. Until it’s been processed and resolved, it weighs on us and holds us back. But, as Benjamin Hardy explains in his book Pers...

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Jul 26, 2020

Starting the Day Right

Perhaps the most effective and simple way to ensure a good day is to start the day well. I’ve found that making just a couple of good moves in the morning makes the rest of the day go well. It almost feels like cheating. Today I got up early for the weekend, before 7, and immediately did some writin...

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Jul 25, 2020

Review of Personality Isn't Permanent

Benjamin Hardy’s new book Personality Isn’t Permanent is a powerful, inspiring break with recent trends in self improvement. It’s about setting ambitious goals and pursuing them vigorously. It’s not focused on habit formation tips like recent books such as Atomic Habits and Tiny Habits. The approach...

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Jul 21, 2020

Focusing on my Future Self

I drank too much caffeine too late in the day yesterday. So I fell asleep at 1:30. So I got up about 8:30, too late to do my morning routine before starting work. Now I’m in a bad mood. It all started with the decision to drink a bunch of iced tea in the mid afternoon. One small decision that is sti...

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Jul 20, 2020

Coaching for Everyone

There’s nothing like having a coach or advisor dedicated to maximizing your performance in key areas of life. A personal trainer, a financial advisor, a psychologist or counselor, a life coach. Ideally, everyone would have a coach for every key area of their life: fitness, setting and achieving goal...

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Jul 19, 2020

Committing to Fitness

Committing to a clear, quantifiable goal is very powerful. It might be the single most important necessity for self improvement. If the commitment is there and the goal is clear and quantifiable, everything else follows. When you are committed to a measurable goal, you will always know if you are on...

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Jul 18, 2020

Committing to Self Improvement

Commitment. It’s simple, but hard. It takes courage. When you commit to improving yourself, you are making a definite decision. You will be fully responsible if it doesn’t go well. When you commit, you are telling yourself you’re going to do your best. If the results are disappointing, you are reall...

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Jul 13, 2020

Fitness as the Keystone

Keystone habits are habits which, when performed, make everything else go better. James Clear shows how exercise functions as his keystone habit: > A few months ago, I started to notice a funny thing. When I worked out, I wanted to eat better. Even though I could have rewarded myself with chocolate ...

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Jul 13, 2020

Pursuing One Primary Goal

Benjamin Hardy’s new book Personality Isn’t Permanent is a bold take on self-improvement. Contrary to the recent trend toward focusing on systems instead of outcomes, he emphasizes setting and committing to ambitious goals. Not only does he advocate being goal-focused, he advises focusing on one pri...

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Jul 7, 2020

The Power of Goals

Benjamin Hardy’s new book Personality Isn’t Permanent emphasizes the importance of goals in determining one’s direction. He gives the powerful example of Andre Norman to start his section on how goals drive personality. As a kid in a disadvantaged neighborhood in Boston, Andre was a trumpet player. ...

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Jul 6, 2020

Tracking Dynamic Habits

To reach a long-term goal, you have to consistently work towards it every day. You need habits. Small, specific actions that you do every day, like take a 30-minute walk, or write a journal entry. When setting out to reach a goal, the most obvious kind of habit to come up with is a simple thing you ...

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Jul 6, 2020

Reframing the Past

Your past is not a settled thing. You subjectively perceive your past differently depending on your present state. So if you think your past is making you do something negative, it might be worth reconsidering. It might be your current perception of your past, your current framing, that’s influencin...

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